When people find out that where I moved from I often get a response of “oh wow!”. That is often followed by asking how long I have been here and asking where I like living better. All fine reactions and questions but the question of where I like better isn’t simple to answer. You see, the thing is I didn’t leave Seattle because I didn’t like it. I just wanted something different and I am really enjoying that “different” place. At the end of the day, Seattle and Dallas have both provided me with things that I love for that period in my life.
It may sound like I moved just because but I think there is more to it. I wouldn’t say that I was bored with Seattle, but I was definitely in my comfort zone. While sometimes I would try new activities or places, I generally had my go to things. I just felt like I had so much more in the world to experience. I also thought that by moving I could truly make the most of my transition from college to post grad. I personally believe that big transitions in life should bring about personal growth. For me moving was something that I thought would bring about a lot of personal growth because it would give me the motivation to put myself out there. When you are living somewhere where you know no one you don’t really have a choice to do anything but put yourself out there. If I would have stayed in Seattle I wouldn’t have felt the need to seek out so many community events and I probably wouldn’t be meeting new people all the time. What I’ve learned is that you can meet new people all the time while still having a core group of friends.
The independent side of me also wanted to create a life that was uniquely my own. Not that I can’t have similarities to other people’s paths in life I just wanted to go about my future in a way that truly represented what I wanted. I didn’t want to model my path after someone who had been in a same position as I was as senior in college.
So far I guess I have focused a lot on the why of my move and not really what I like about each city so I’ll move on to that now. However, it should be noted that the root of why I don’t significantly like one city better than the other is the why. In Seattle I definitely like the scenery. I also liked the fact that most people aren’t high maintenance when it comes to material items. Granted I live in suburbs right now but Seattle was definitely more walking friendly. Obviously my family and long term friends are there. I also loved the fact that I lived in the city. As for Dallas I like the endless restaurant options with patios. The brunch obsession is also very real here. It is really easy to meet people my age here because so many events are geared towards us. People are super friendly here, and lastly cost of living allows me to live the lifestyle I want to live. I could go into the cons of each place but I’ll pass on that today.
When it comes down to it, I was seeking out more (not better) life experiences when I moved. I didn’t feel like I was going to get what I was wanting by staying put so I went ahead and did it. I wasn’t tied down by anything or anyone so it was my chance to be selfish and go fulfill my goals. With the amount of technology these days I didn’t feel like I was truly abandoning anyone. Everyone has a different way of seeking out the experiences and growth they want. This was mine.
One last thing. It’s kind of hard to compare a place where you have 21 years of history to a place where you don’t even have a years worth of history. The longer I stay in Dallas the more it may feel like my true home and the place I want to settle down. Or another opportunity could present itself in the future at another point when I’m not tied down and I could end up in another completely different place. All I know is that I am enjoying where I am now, I will always appreciate where I came from, and I’m not counting out the possibility of ending up elsewhere.