I recently attended the Halsey concert in Dallas which was amazing. What I didn’t expect was for her to say something before one of her songs that would strike such a cord with me. That statement was “I’m really good at throwing parties but I hate talking to people”. While I don’t relate completely to that specific statement, it got me thinking about some traits of mine that seem to contradict themselves. From that I also got to thinking about that maybe they aren’t complete contradictions. Maybe some of these seemingly opposing traits are just signs of the need for balance in life.
Some of the things that contradict themselves about me include:
- I like nice things but I have a really hard time validating big ticket purchases for myself.
- I like social settings because they make me feel like I belong or have found my niche but I get exhausted if I have to make too much small talk.
- I love fashion and work in the industry but I still love a good sweatshirt and pair of basic leggings.
- I am open to new experiences (i.e. bungee jumping or moving places where I don’t know people) but I struggle at opening up to people sometimes.
- I’ve literally taken a test that has told me I am exactly 50 percent left brained and 50 percent right brained.
- I can be pretty emotional and sensitive on the inside but I hate showing it. I’ll show stress and frustration sometimes but it’s pretty rare that I cry.
A lot of the time I’ll just think that my personality is really confusing because there are so many multiple sides to it. As I thought about this concept some more after the concert I realized that most people probably do have many sides to their personality just like me. I mean doesn’t everyone say that is what makes each individual themselves? I’m starting realize that some of these things I listed about myself aren’t necessarily confusing things. They are just the two extremes to the balance I try to find in my life.
Only focusing on one side of your personality may lead to short term happiness. However, I believe that it is no way to find long term happiness. For example, someone may be a very career oriented person, but if they never take a break to socialize or engage in a personal hobby they can easily get burnt out and lose motivation for something that used to give them happiness. Another example that relates to my own life is if I never treat myself to nice clothing or accessory pieces I’m sacrificing a huge part of personality. I love being able to save money and being financially stable, but outwardly expressing my love for fashion also gives me a lot of confidence. Fashion has never been about just having impressive things to wear for me, it’s been about investing in items that I know I’ll be able to convey the message I want to present about myself for the day or event.
There may be a lot of seemingly opposing sides to a lot of people’s personalities but I think that giving into both sides and finding a balance will lead to being the best version yourself.