I went to school in a complete college town. This made it very easy to see or talk to my friends because everyone was a 5 minute walk away. On any given day I could find someone who was down to do anything from going to Walmart for no reason or going to the bar on a Tuesday night. I got used to this for 4 years, so moving thousands of miles away definitely taught me some lessons on staying in contact with my college friends. Balancing old and new friends can be tough. Especially during the beginning stages of a move. You want to put a lot of time and effort into finding friends who are geographically close to you. At the same time though, you don’t want to lose contact with your college friends.
The 2 main things I have learned that help with staying in contact include calling instead of texting and facetime or skype. Some of these things probably seem like common sense but sometimes people might get so caught up in their new life that they may forget to do some of these basic things.
When I don’t have time call and fully catch up with someone I will text them when something reminds me of them. This isn’t even always to start a conversation. Sometimes it is just nice to remind people that I haven’t completely forgotten about them even though I am geographically further away than ever before. It is also important to be sure ask questions instead of rambling about yourself. Admittedly, I could still improve on this skill. Sometimes I feel like I am on this big adventure and I have so much to fill people in on. To stay close with people it is important to make time to listen to what is going on in their lives.
Another important thing to remember is that people may not be as quick to respond. After graduation people have more serious responsibilities and varying schedules. If someone takes a couple days to get back to you, don’t take it super personally. Just appreciate the times that they do take to catch up with you.
Some people reading this may just be thing “well, duh” to themselves. However, I just wanted to share some of my experiences with staying in contact with friends from before my move because sometimes we all need a reminder that just because the way we approach our friendship with someone may change doesn’t mean we have to lose complete contact with them.